'Everyone is like a butterfly, they start out ugly and awkward and then morph into beautiful, graceful butterflies that everyone loves.' Drew Barrymore

By now you're familiar with working on yourself from the inside out to bring about whatever change you want. We've focused on your character, personality, attitude, and demeanour. Now I want to look at you and what you're saying about yourself through your physical appearance and the clothes you wear.

Looking good
All true reinvention begins on the inside but shows up on the outside. Transforming the way you see yourself and how others see you has to reflect itself in a change of look. Much has been made about the dramatic new look of Chelsea Clinton. She might have been gawky as a child, but now she has truly blossomed. It's not just that Chelsea has lost her puppy fat. She's gone through what the psychologist Dr Janet Reibstein calls a 'beauty watershed'. 'Clinton is at the point where she can see herself for what she wants to be, rather than what her parents want her to be, and is clearly enjoying it,' says Reibstein.

Look the part
Today, stylists are so prized and sought-after they have a status similar to the stars they style. Katie Grand restyled Madonna and Elizabeth Hurley for a series of photos and she is the one the papers are interviewing. Any decent department store now has their own personal shopper to help you get the right look.

Decide what your dress code needs to be. It's your uniform, a vital part of your armoury, critical to your success. Looking the part is half the battle. When Madonna turned up to persuade director Alan Parker to give her the part of Eva Peron in Evita, she drew gasps as she swanned in. She was Eva Peron, from head -to- toe. The resemblance was said to be uncanny. She went on to win an Oscar nomination for her performance.

So, what part are you playing? Be absolutely clear. Your external appearance speaks volumes. If you want to convince those in power of your intelligence and authority, dress to impress them. Skin, hair and hands deserve thoughtful grooming. It'll show. All work environments have dress codes. Ensure you've deciphered yours and are suitably attired.
Life can take it out of you. It's easy to get coated with layers of resignation, cynicism, and self-doubt. It all adds up to a dampening of your spirit, vibrancy and optimism, a shutting down of what's possible for you. I want to slough off those layers, so you see yourself anew. But before we even think about that, we need to make room to throw off what may be stale or no longer useful.

Get into shape
You know what to do. Get the look. It'll be worth it. If you need to drop 10lb to get it, even better. Get on with it. Don't underestimate the importance of feeling comfortable in your skin, with your size. Talk show star Graham Norton was interviewed recently and asked about the effect of his success on his ego. He replied, 'Being thin and fit has affected my ego far more than success has.' He started personal training and shed nearly two stone.

It's good to get into shape. You deserve to have the sensation of a lean, fit body that looks great - with or without your clothes!

Most importantly, dress for yourself. Present yourself as you wish to see yourself. The days are long gone when looking sexy ended at 35.